Don’t Quit of Being Belittled at Work

Cultivating our emotional intelligence, even if we will be fired. It proves how resilient we can be.

After a week of being overlooked, I realized that the manager, who was meant to train me, had been too preoccupied to notice me. Moreover, she failed to inform me that I should seek assistance from Miss A, who was working in another office but in charge of the same administrative duties I would face.

It wasn’t until I noticed an unfamiliar face at today’s meeting that I took the initiative to introduce myself to her.

She was surprised to see me at work already, thinking I hadn’t started yet. After the meeting, she quickly showed me how to write an email before returning to her office.

I followed her instructions to format the email, and she reviewed it herself and then sent it using my account.

Three minutes later, a secretary called to complain, stating they had already informed us that the President would be on business on 5/21. Why did we ask her to arrange a consultation that day?

The belittler, like a vulture lurking in the sky, was 55ish years old and fed on people’s self-abashment, radiated a massive hatred on me, and berated, “Did you let your supervisor check the email before you sent it?”

As I was thinking about how to properly explain I was told to write it step by step, but I was also too careless to notice the schedule on the whiteboard.

She began to attack. ‘You never learn.’ ‘You betrayed my hard efforts to teach.’ ‘Never saw such a useless person’ ‘You thought you’re smart’,…, etc.

One colleague said, “Miss A forgot the time.” 

I finally said, “She taught me how to write an email to the President, and I was also at fault for not noticing the date.”

The soul-sucker shut her mouth, but spit the venom again, “Don’t you dare to think you have done nothing wrong…” “So I told you I was at fault then.” I calmly reminded her, silencing her completely.

If we know how to respect others, and truly understand our values, a nonsense judge will be dismissed by truth. As a fresh meat at the workplace, in which all other people have been working together for at least two years, I learn and apologize for my mistakes but never forget my value.

I am good, and I can get better and better every day.

It’s only been two weeks, and I’ve already found a screamer/belittler sitting across my cubicle. What should I do?

Do what I’m told, take notes, and distinguish the bullying from the guiding.

If she ended up wanting me to leave, I knew it was the company’s loss, not mine.